Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 10 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Tina M Games whose book Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery (and its accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards) is celebrating its 1st birthday on Amazon on Tuesday May 3, 2011.
Author Tina M Games is a certified creativity and life purpose coach. She calls herself the “Moonlight Muse” for women who want to tap into the “full moon within” and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally. Through her signature coaching programs, based on the phases of the moon, Tina gently guides women from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression.
Yesterday, Tina visited Schall Adams at http://www.seriousfunradio.com/2011/04/journaling-by-the-moonlight/ , where she answered about revealing inner truth, intuition and personal identity.
Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Tina where I got to ask her some questions about her catalyst for writing the book, her discovery of one’s true purpose, and the connection between the moon, women, and intuition. I hope you enjoy it.
Tina M Games: Thank you, Paula, for your interest in my book, Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery and its accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards.
I believe that mothers are a significant part of the “ripple effect” that will transform the world into a more loving, more nurturing place. Imagine for a moment a “pebble thrown into a pond.” It creates a ripple that goes on and on and on.
When a mother is living life with complete authenticity, she’s subconsciously giving permission for her kids to do the same. She’s truly at her best – creating powerful change for her family, her community, and for the world at large. It’s all part of “the ripple.”
It’s my belief that “a happy mother makes the best mother” – and our kids really do want to see their moms happy!
Paula Tarrant: I love it, Tina! As mothers we really are the center of our world and everyone in it, aren’t we? What was the catalyst for writing “Journaling by Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery”?
Tina M Games: Shortly after the birth of my first child, and after making some fairly significant life changes at the same time, I fell into depression – a place that felt so foreign to me, a place where I felt like I had fallen into a black hole with no way out. During this time, a period that spanned over two years, I disconnected from everything that made me happy. Because my son suffered from chronic illnesses related to serious colds and severe ear infections, I made a very difficult choice to give up a successful career in order to care for my son full-time. I hadn’t realized until this experience how much of my identity was tied into my career. I really enjoyed working. And without that opportunity in my life, I felt very lost and very unhappy.
It was also during this time that I fell back on a great passion of mine – journal writing. As a mom of a baby who did not have a normal sleep schedule, I found myself exhausted and emotional much of the time. So night after night, after I’d get my son settled and after my husband went to bed, I’d grab my journal and retreat to my favorite chair – beside a big bay window where I caught a glimpse of the moon. It was the moon that taught me the meaning of transition. I’d watch this beautiful lunar goddess, night after night, move in and out of her various phases. And before long, I began to connect her phases with my own emotional tides.
I noticed that the moon always began in darkness and gradually, she’d move into full light – and cycle back around again. And I noticed the contrast between dark and light – the darkness of the night sky against the beautiful full moon light. I started connecting to this – as if I was being divinely guided through my own transitions of dark and light. I began to notice the ebbs and flows of my emotions. There were good days and bad days.
And then one day, two years later, I had an ah-ha. After several conversations with my own mother and other mothers whom I had encountered along the way, I began to wonder, “Are there other moms out there who may be having a similar experience?”
I decided to create two focus groups of mothers where we could have honest discussions about motherhood, careers, and life purpose – and how they all fit together. These dialogues eventually led to a series of articles and then to the creation of my coaching practice – where I could work with moms on a deeper level.
This is when I decided to write my book, Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery. I wanted mothers to realize that every human transition begins in darkness and gradually moves into light, where we get a glimpse of what is possible. And then we retreat, to ponder the many ways we can manifest these possibilities into reality. This requires deep work, where we step into our own truth and into our own power – and where we can emerge in the most authentic way possible. This is what I call the Blue Moon phase – when we finally realize that we are here on this Earth to be WHO we are, to put our personal thumbprint on the world in the most truthful, most authentic, most unique way possible. Each one of us are individuals being divinely guided on our own purposeful path.
Paula Tarrant: What did you learn about journal writing that you feel lends itself so well to the discovery of one’s true purpose in life?
Tina M Games: Journal writing is an invitation to jump into the depth of your heart and soul. It’s a place where truth can be spoken without fear of judgment and without worry of being censored. It creates a very private, very sacred place where one can have an honest conversation with her subconscious (that deep inner knowing that we all have). It also provides the space where one can dialogue with her higher power, asking open-ended questions and waiting for thoughtful answers.
Neale Donald Walsch provides an excellent example of what can happen when one opens up to their higher source and makes a request for answers. In his book, Conversations with God, he engages in a dialogue with his divine power and asks, “Why is this happening to me?” And then he waits for the answers – and they eventually come. They pour through him and onto the pages of his journal. And it’s through his journal writing process that he becomes enlightened and finds a way to get his life back on track.
But it all begins with truth. Before we begin our search for answers, we must first be willing to tell the truth. We must be willing to speak from a place of honesty, which many times come from a place of pain or confusion.
As a life purpose coach, I gently guide moms on a path of self-discovery through journal writing. I ask them very deep questions that take them to a place of “Wow, I never knew this part of me existed.” And when we get to this place, we start “connecting the dots” of life experiences. Why did we travel a particular road just to get to this place of deep questioning? It’s my belief that everything happens for a reason. We experience something in a particular way – good or bad. We meet certain people in our lives who teach us lessons. We travel to a certain place that offers us clues about our next steps or answers a question that we’ve been pondering for quite some time. These are called synchronicities – and they’re happening all the time. It’s when we pay attention that we are led to our authentic purpose. Many of us go through life never knowing that things are happening for a reason – until we reach a place of questioning, “What does this all mean – and why am I here?”
In my book, Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery, I offer a series of journal writing prompts (called Moonlight Musings) that follow a self-exploration process. Each of these prompts are designed to take a mother to a deeper place within her being – and can take anywhere from five minutes to 30 minutes, depending on how connected a mom might be with a particular question.
I’ve also designed an accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards. Each card offers a prompt that guides moms on an inner journey to discover more about herself and how to honor her gifts in our external world.
It’s all about being open to receiving and trusting that the answers are there – if we are ready for them.
Paula Tarrant: What is the significance of the moon in astrology, and more specifically, what is the particular connection for women?
Tina M Games: In astrology, the moon represents our emotional nature. It also shows the type of relationship a woman may have with her own mother as well as the type of mother she may be herself (her style, her demeanor, her strengths, her weaknesses).
Wherever the moon shows up in an astrology chart is an indicator of where we might have the strongest emotional ties. For example, if a moon shows up in the 1st house (the house of self), we will have strong emotions when it comes to how we perceive ourselves – our appearance, our body image, how others may feel about us.
The moon brings a very feminine energy to our lives. She tugs at our emotions, moving with the ebbs and flows, and mirrors our menstrual cycles (the lunar calendar follows a 28-day cycle just as our bodies do).
Whenever I work with a client around her mothering patterns, I look at the moon in her astrology chart and guide her from there – looking at what’s natural for her and what she might need to do if she wants to make some adjustments. If a client wants to better understand her relationship with her own mother, the moon holds many clues.
Paula Tarrant: How did you strengthen your ability to tap into your intuition? What role does your intuition play in living authentically?
Tina M Games: Intuition is our “divine channel of wisdom.” It always knows best. And when we listen to it, we can’t go wrong. It feeds a mother’s soul with the right messages for her children – and it feeds her soul with the right messages for herself. And when we can be fully open to it, it always gives us the answers we need. When we doubt it, even in the smallest of ways, we can be thrown off track – sometimes in a very painful way.
This is where journal writing can help. We can ask ourselves the deep, thought-provoking questions and we can listen for the answers, allowing them to feed through us. We are all divinely guided – and when we are willing to ask the questions and when we are open to receiving the answers, we can travel a more purposeful, more authentic path.
In my case, I knew what was best for my son – and at the same time, I knew what was best for me. And I knew in a pivotal moment of my life story, that the two were not the same. But I didn’t fully listen to my intuition. I only listened to part of it. I let guilt take over.
Looking back at that time in my life, my intuition was screaming, “You can give your child what he needs and you can give yourself what you need. There are ways it can be done.” But guilt consumed me, and I gave in to what my son needed – and in a sense, I was telling myself, “You don’t matter.” While my son’s needs were met, mine were not. And this resulted in depression.
A mother really does know best. She knows what’s best for her child – and she knows what’s best for herself – IF she really listens and follows her gut instincts.
I hope you enjoyed this interview with Tina M Games and that you’ll check out her book and card deck Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery this month at http://moonlightmomscircle.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
FREE 3-DAY PASS
When you visit the page at the link above and request a “launch reminder”, you will automatically receive a FREE pass to Tina’s 3-day “I’m a Mom… But Who Am I Really? Telesummit” with 11 creative writing moms and grandmothers speaking on how to use intuition, journaling and creativity to explore life purpose. You can listen to the telesummit online in the comfort of your own home, and even ask questions during the broadcast.
This telesummit is a completely free “no purchase necessary”
gift from Tina, to celebrate the 1st birthday of her book.
When you buy Tina’s book or the card deck during its birthday celebration on Tuesday May 3, 2011, you can ALSO receive a complete library of beautiful personal development gifts from authors, speakers, coaches and other enlightened professionals from around the globe including one from me…
Transformation Made Easy™ Success Kit
To claim your 3-Day Pass and read about the free gifts, go to: http://moonlightmomscircle.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.
AND… be sure to follow Tina tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Debra Simpson who will be interviewing Tina on why she wrote this book, the journaling process that lead to the book, her discoveries along the way and what she hopes people will take away after reading it. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://www.syndicatingyourcontent.com/author-interviews/tina-games-a-mothers-journey-of-self-discovery-through-journaling