There are 3 main ways we build a strong personal foundation. Review these and decide which one you feel the most resonance with. That’s where you want to begin your work. Your goal is not to overhaul your life in one huge step. It’s a process of little baby steps that will get you where you are headed!
So, let’s see what feels like a good place to start!
1. Practice Self Care. This is more than getting a manicure or treating yourself to a spa day. Self care is about the things you do daily that nurture not only your body but also your mind, heart and spirit. Ask yourself, “what do I do everyday in each of these areas that says I am important”?
Make a list. You may find that you do a lot in one area and hardly any in the others. See where you are falling short and make a list of possible ways you can begin to nurture yourself more. Then choose one new thing you will implement this week. Each week choose another new nurturing, self care practice, preferably for another aspect of yourself than the one you focused on the precious week.
When you start to value yourself, then you begin to love and appreciate yourself more as well. And you will begin to see others appreciating and loving you more in response to the new vibrational energy you are giving out. Cool, huh?
2. Maintain Strong Boundaries. Before you can maintain your boundaries, you must first decide what your boundaries are! Sometimes we take for granted that we know where we draw the line when, in fact, we don’t have a very clear idea at all! So your first step is to decide where your boundaries are. You can do this by taking a look at what you value and how you want to be treated.
Now that you are practicing greater self care you are more in tune with how you want to be treated, so making a list of those should come fairly easily. Take a look at what and who you surround yourself with for a quick assessment of your values.
Together these two lists will give you the basis for where your current boundaries are. Becoming aware of where you are empowers you to see where you want to be.
As you declare your boundaries to yourself and claim them as your own, you will begin to honor them. And, as you honor them, so will those around you!
3. Eliminate Tolerations. Where your focus goes, so goes your energy. And your energy is your vibrational output. When you tolerate negative or bothersome things in your life, it’s as though each of them is a hole in your energy container, and your energy is leaking out these holes rather than being available for focusing on positive, empowering connections. Your vibrational focus is on what’s not working and what you don’t want.
Sure, you still have some energy left over for focusing on what you do want. But just think how much more powerful your energy focus would be if all of your energy were channeled positively!
Eliminating the things you are tolerating frees up your energy for more efficient use. You may already be aware of some of the bigger tolerations in your life. Think about the little, niggling things that are bothering you, slowing you down, or getting in your way. Start eliminating these, and as you do, you will have more energy resources for eliminating the bigger tolerations.
As you can see, building a strong personal foundation can take some work. It’s worth it! Just like building a house, you can’t put up the walls, or the roof, if you don’t have anything to secure them to. Your life is like a house. Your foundation is where you will attach your purpose, creativity, passion, and authenticity.
Unlike the foundation for the brick and mortar house, your foundation can always be a work in progress. So take heart! Roll up your sleeves and dig in!