“Many women today feel a sadness we cannot name. Though we accomplish much of what we set out to do, we sense that something is missing in our lives and – fruitlessly – search “out there” for the answers. What’s often wrong is that we are disconnected from an authentic sense of self.” – Emily Hancock
On the surface everything seems fine. You’re going along, having a good day, maybe a busy day. Then suddenly, you hear a song, read a quote, see a poignant moment of the sweetness of human good in action. Without warning, tears spring to your eyes, spilling over and streaming down your face. You feel a sadness and longing, welling up from the depths of your heart. Where did this come from? What is this great longing and sadness that seems to come out of nowhere?
It’s the sense that something is missing. What, we wonder, can it be? Looking for something to soothe our hearts and lighten our spirit, we take ourselves off to the mall and buy a new outfit, or put a fresh coat of paint on the family room walls, or schedule a little retreat at our favorite spa. But what if what was missing wasn’t something new in our closet, or something fresh to appeal to our aesthetic sensibilities, or any other pick me up in the realm of our outer lives, but something “in here”, in our hearts?
Perhaps the cause of the melancholy that rises from deep within is something more essential. What if the source of our longing is that we miss the life we are meant to be living? We miss what’s true and authentic for us. Even if you’ve done what’s practical and logical for most of your life, settling and compromising, and have ignored the whisperings of your authentic self (“study languages. . .take up dancing. . .open a bookstore. . .take the train. . .”), it’s never too late. Your journey back to your truest self may be along a path that’s overgrown from disuse, but it’s not impassable. No, it’s never too late.
Let this be the year you choose to make your journey home. Turn away from the half-lived life you’ve settled for. Listen to the whisperings of your heart and look within for your guidance. Spirit is your silent companion. Guiding hands are also waiting to assist you along your way. The Unseen World watches from the forest shadows, also ready to intervene to keep you safe and guard your steps.
What will you rediscover as you journey on towards the life that is calling you? You will begin to discover what it is that truly can make you happy. You’ll begin to understand that what you need and what you want are not always the same, that meaning isn’t found in how many zeros are on your bank account statement, nor in how perfectly you execute a project. You’ll discover how to live your life again rather than spend your days working on developing and improving yourself at every turn and in every way, exhausted and frazzled with constant strident exhortation from the latest quick fix solution. Be more. Do more. Have more.
Oh, dear Reader! I don’t know about you, but I’ve had enough. It’s time. For me. For you. It’s time to become the heroines of our stories. It’s time to make the journey back, to leave behind the clamor of the world at large that doesn’t know us, but thinks it does, and return to Wholeness and Authenticity of Heart. Be the woman you are meant to be. Your authentic self waits patiently for you along the road home. She’s the one whose whisperings cause the tears to spring, and your heart to seize with longing.
Becoming the heroine of your own life is an act of love. And an act of courage. And, it’s a journey you don’t have to make alone. At long last, the journey you were destined to take can begin.