When Bad Things Happen To Good People

Today, I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 3 of Erica Tucci’s Virtual Blog Tour. Erica’s book Radiant Survivor: How to Shine and Thrive through Recovery from Stroke, Cancer, Abuse, Addiction and Other Life-Altering Experiences is celebrating its big Amazon launch on November 19th, 2013 at http://www.radiantsurvivor.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.php.

Erica Tucci had a full life as a corporate manager of a Fortune 500 company, a healing arts business owner and an author of three books. It all came to a screeching halt in June 2011 when she had a stroke that left her completely paralyzed on her right side. While spending more than two years in recovery, she gained much wisdom about what’s really important in life. She re-entered the world with a new mission: to use her story as an inspiration for others facing life challenges, which we all have, big or small. That story can be found in her brand new book, Radiant Survivor. Erica is also an official Online Ambassador for the American Stroke Association.

Yesterday, Erica visited Krystalya Marie’ at http://www.empoweredspiritinsights.com/?p=333,  where they talked about limiting beliefs, miracles and the impact of stories from other survivors of major illnesses on Erica’s healing.

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Erica when I got to ask her some questions on her recovery process, her mind-set and her life before and after her stroke. I hope you enjoy it.


Paula: You’re young, you’re an Energy worker, you practice healthy living. When you had your stroke, did you think “this doesn’t happen to ‘women like me’!” And if so, how did you shift yourself out of the denial and resistance and begin the healing process?

Erica: Actually, when I first had my stroke, I didn’t even consider how it would change my life. I just kind of went from day to day following a routine of nurses and doctor’s coming in and out of my room, going around the hallway in my wheelchair talking to the nurses and other patients, sleeping, eating, enjoying friends and family visits, rehab, etc. When I did start thinking how my life would change, I looked at it with the mindset that this was something that I had to go through for my own personal growth…it was my karma. If you read “My Story” at the beginning of my book Radiant Survivor, you will understand what I mean. I didn’t look at myself as a victim of circumstance. I looked more at my ordeal as part of my life journey and asked questions such as “what am I supposed to be learning from this?” That’s not to say I didn’t feel some despair for it happening. Who wouldn’t be upset if their life was turned upside down and things would never be the same…that they would be changed forever, and they had no idea what the future would hold for them? But I pressed onward into rehab and did everything in my power to heal. I was determined to get better, and I am now on the road to full recovery. It’s been a difficult journey but I consider it a gift from the heavens for what I have learned.

Paula: You talk a lot about recovery as a process. How do you describe that process? Does it have a conclusion or is it an ongoing process?

Erica: Healing from any life-altering experience, just as life itself, is a process. I used the model that Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross described in her book On Death and Dying of the stages of grief someone goes through when faced with terminal illness. It encompasses denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally, acceptance – denial about your situation, anger about your situation, bargaining with the Higher Power to make the situation go away, depression because of the way things are and then finally acceptance where you move forward in your life. This process can be used for any life trauma that one faces. You may not go through all aspects of the process or in the same order, depending on how you look at your situation. I went through denial briefly in the beginning. I never tried to bargain with the Higher Power because of my belief that my ordeal had a purpose in my life – to heal me from my karma. I did have bouts of anger and depression throughout much of my recovery. It came in waves that got smaller and smaller as I got better and better. True acceptance came to me when I really surrendered and let go – turning my healing over to the Higher Power. As far as healing being ongoing versus having an end, I feel that as long as we are alive in our human bodies, we will always have something that needs to be healed, whether it is physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. We may be healed from one predicament only to find that it has uncovered some other trauma, big or small, that we must deal with as we travel down our path of evolution.

Paula: How is your life – your values, priorities, purpose – different now than before your stroke? What’s next for you?

Erica: Before my stroke, I had a full life as a corporate manager of a Fortune 500 company. I was also a Reiki master, massage therapist, a life coach for women and an author of three books. I was running as fast as I could on the treadmill of life, but was brought to my knees when I had my stroke. I was operating out of a masculine mindset – ego-based, controlling, and driven. And even though I had a healing arts business, I did it with the mentality “What’s in it for me?” After my stroke and during my recovery, I gained much wisdom about what is really important in life and I have re-entered the world with a new mission in life and a different mindset, one that is more heart-centric, more feminine and nurturing, where my question to myself is now “How can I serve others?” My passion is to continue my woman-focused work, helping woman find their “yin radiance” through their authentic voice and their own healing (see my website www.ericatucci.com) as well as using the insights I gained from my traumatic experience to inspire others facing their own life challenges (visit www.radiantsurvivor.com). I will be developing a trauma recovery coaching program based on my Radiant Survivor book. I consider myself the Radiance Muse, inspiring you to live life brilliantly. After my book launch on November 19th and when I am fully healed, I hope to take my work on the road doing speaking engagements and workshops, as well as doing online teleseminars and workshops. I also want to write a sequel to my novel Anything is Possible and an update to my book Zesty Womanhood at 40 and Beyond. A lot to look forward to, but right now, I take it one day at a time, living from moment to moment. I hope to keep that as my mindset from now on since we never know what will happen from one minute to the next. I certainly didn’t expect to have a stroke!


I hope you enjoyed this interview with Erica Tucci! I certainly did! And, I hope you’ll check out her book Radiant Survivor at http://www.radiantsurvivor.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.php

Here Are Two Reasons Why You Should:

Reason 1: FREE 3-DAY EVENT

Radiant Survivor Telesummit

November 12th through 14th, 2013

Day One:  Finding Our Inner Strength! Tuesday November 12th, 2013: 12 – 1:30pm PST

Day Two:  The Emotional Journey of Recovery Wednesday November 13th, 2013: 12 – 1:30pm PST

Day Three:  Spiritual Surrender and Letting Go Thursday November 14th, 2013: 12 – 1:30pm PST

When you visit the page at the above link and request a “launch reminder”, you will automatically receive a FREE pass to Erica’s 3-day “Radiant SurvivorTelesummitwhich runs from November 12th through 14th, 2013, with a panel of 11 world-renowned experts on recovery and transformation. You can listen to the telesummit online in the comfort of your own home, and even ask questions during the broadcast.

Guests Include:

  • Erica Tucci – Life Coach; Reiki Master; stroke survivor; author of Radiant Survivor: How to Shine and Thrive through Recovery from Stroke, Cancer, Abuse, Addiction and Other Life-Altering Experiences
  • Lynn Serafinn – Coach; marketer; author of The 7 Graces of Marketing
  • Bernie Siegel MD – World-renowned surgeon; author of A Book of Miracles and The Art of Healing
  • Allison Maslan – Entrepreneur; author of Blast-Off!
  • Barbara Techel – Speaker; author of Through Frankie’s Eyes; contributing author for Radiant Survivor
  • Sue Frederick – Author of Bridges to Heaven, I See Your Dream Job, and I See Your Soul Mate
  • Deb Scott – Author of The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue; host of “The Best People We Know Show”
  • Delanie Stephenson – Stroke survivor; author The Calm before the Storm; Online Ambassador for the American Stroke Association
  • Mal Duane – Alcoholism survivor; certified Life Recovery Coach; author of Alpha Chick
  • Suzanne Rose Lubkowski – Energy healer; intuitive Life Coach; contributing author for Radiant Survivor
  • Callie Carling – Cancer survivor; Laughter Yoga teacher; creativity coach; contributing author for Radiant Survivor

This telesummit is a completely free “no purchase necessary” gift from Erica

To register or for more info, go to


When you buy Erica’s book on Tuesday November 19, 2013, you can receive the MP3 downloads of all 3 days of the inspiring Radiant Survivor Telesummit, plus a complete library of beautiful personal discovery gifts from authors, speakers, coaches and other enlightened professionals from around the globe including one from me:

Transition Alchemy: The Art and Practice of Deep in Your Soul Transformation

To claim your FREE pass to the Radiant Survivor Telesummit
and read about the free gifts, go to:

Thanks for reading! Please share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

AND… be sure to follow Erica tomorrow when the next stop on her Virtual Blog Tour is Eileen Parr, who will be interviewing Erica on truth, surrendering and believing. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://www.eileenparr.com/spiritual-insights-for-writers.html.

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3 thoughts on “When Bad Things Happen To Good People

  1. Paula; Great attitude and question, “What am I supposed to be learning from this?”

    As spiritual beings having a human experience this gives us the opportunity to be learn and grow from our human experiences.

    Big paradigm shift in attitude from “What’s in it for me” to how can I best serve others.
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